When work, emails, responsibilities, requests, deadlines pile in on top of us, the weight of it all can be hard to carry. And we all know what it feels like when that one extra straw comes in and the camel’s back starts creaking.
Whatever role you’re in, wherever you are in the hierarchy, today’s highly-connected environment means the volume of incoming stuff can be overwhelming. We could all work 27 hours a day and still not get done everything that arrives with our name on it.
In the face of this, it is absolutely vital that you have a strong sense of your priorities. In two different ways.
First, you have to be clear on what work is really important and what is just busy-ness with your name on it. Think about things according to the Eisenhower matrix of urgent vs important matters. Make sure you’re spending enough time on the things that are important but less urgent. Make sure you’re working in your power zone, where your passions, market and expertise overlap.
When you KNOW you’re doing work that matters, the stuff that it’s really important that YOU do, it is easier to worry less about the busy-work. When you have your priorities straight it’s easier to not sweat the small stuff. Because you know it’s the small stuff.
Second, remember that the things which support your mental and physical health sit squarely in the important but not urgent corner of the Eisenhower matrix.
When things get stressful it’s often easy to let those things slip, so you can put in the extra hours at the office to keep on getting stuff done. Every so often this is necessary. But if it becomes a pattern, pushing away the stuff that makes you youand keeps you sane, will only lead to you cracking under the pressure.
However busy you are, however much stuff is going on, it is absolutely OK to commit to an hour of exercise a day. Or that 15 minute meditation period every lunchtime. Or the daily ritual of your kids dinner and bath time.
Making this sort of self-care commitment does two things. It supports your wellbeing directly. And it forces you to keep on top of your other priorities. You find you’ll be saying to yourself… “I can only do two more things, because I have to read the kids a story… So I’ll do these two, because they’re the most important.”
Keeping on top of your priorities, taking proactive steps to build your mental wellbeing and turning your mindset away from victim-think towards responsibility is my three part prescription for building resilience.